BECAUSE ACTIONS DO SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS
“Crap, crap, crap” I hear her mutter under her breath. “What did you say?” I ask my 4 yr old granddaughter. Totally innocent, she repeats what she had just muttered. A conversation about appropriate and inappropriate things to say followed.
Ever wonder why kids learn faster by what they see us do than by what we tell them to do? Ever wonder why there is an almost universal distrust of politicians? It’s because actions speak louder than words. That may be an old cliche’ but it has hung around for so long because it’s true.
If we tell our kids and grandkids to act and behave a certain way and that same behavior isn’t what we are modeling for them you can bet they are going to be copying the behavior we modeled, NOT the behavior we told them we wanted from them.
They Are Watching And Hearing Everything We Do!
Those little ones are watching us every single minute. Don’t believe me? Accidentally let a swear word slip past your lips and just see how long it takes before you hear that same word out of your little one’s mouth (as I heard the “crap, crap, crap” mentioned above from my little granddaughter.) Even when they are playing and seemingly ignoring us, they are watching and listening to everything.
Not only is it important for reasons of example to the little ones but one of the best ways to convey respect is to make sure that our actions match our words. If we say we love and respect someone (whether child or adult) we need to be sure that we don’t interrupt, that we keep our promises to them, that we make them feel valued, that we let them know through our actions that we love and respect them. We need to be sure that our actions support our words.